1. What is the difference between somatic sex education/coaching, sexological bodywork, sex therapy, and sex surrogacy?

2. What are some of the potential outcomes of somatic sex education?

3. Who sees a somatic sex educator?

4. What does a somatic sex education session consist of?

5. What can I expect in my session?

6. What does a typical first session look like?

7. Do I have to do anything I don’t want to do?

8. What these sessions are NOT

9. Can I bring my partner to my sessions?

10. What does a couples session look like?

11. What kinds of clients do you work with?

12. Some words about gender and anatomy

13. Is my information kept confidential?

14. Do you offer phone or Skype sessions?

15. What is your cancellation policy?

16. Legal stuff


1. What is the difference between somatic sex education/coaching, sexological bodywork, sex therapy, and sex surrogacy?

Somatic sex education and coaching is focused on educating clients in an experiential and interactive format. This can include talking and coaching and may also include exercises that engage the client’s body while they are learning. An example could be anatomy mapping – while a client learns about anatomy, they may also touch those parts of the body to learn it with both the body and the mind. Coaching may also include participating in exercises that give the client a real, learned experience of asking for what they want or setting boundaries. People trained in sexological bodywork and the Somatica method apply these types of experiential and educational techniques in their work with clients. I am trained in somatic sex education and the Somatica method.

Sexological bodywork is a form of bodywork that does not exclude any part of the body, including the genitals and anus. Sexological bodyworkers go through rigorous training to learn detailed anatomy, numerous strokes and types of touch, ethics, and methods for working with pleasure, relaxation, shame, fear and more. Sexological bodyworkers apply one-way touch, remain clothed and professional during sessions, use gloves and other safety precautions for any genital or anal touch, and abide by the Association of Certified Sexological Bodyworkers’ Code of Ethics. Sexological Bodyworkers are also known as Somatic Sex Educators or Coaches, but Somatic Sex Educators/Coaches are not always Sexological Bodyworkers. I am a Certified Sexological Bodyworker.

In sex therapy, the client(s) and therapist usually engage in psychotherapy in a conversational context. This often looks very similar to other psychotherapy, but the subject or emphasis is on sex. Sex therapists may give their clients experiential exercises to do by themselves or with a partner, but the sessions usually do not include experiential forms of engagement. The following comes from AASECT – “AASECT Certified Sex Therapists are licensed mental health professionals, trained to provide in-depth psychotherapy, who have specialized in treating clients with sexual issues and concerns. In the absence of available licensure, they are certified, registered, or clinical members of a national psychotherapy organization. Sex therapists work with simple sexual concerns also, but in addition, where appropriate, are prepared to provide comprehensive and intensive psychotherapy over an extended period of time in more complex cases.” I am not a sex therapist and do not offer sex therapy or any form of therapy.

The following description of sex surrogacy comes from IPSA – “IPSA’s Surrogate Partner Therapy is based on the successful methods of Masters and Johnson. In this therapy, a client, a therapist and a surrogate partner form a three-person therapeutic team. The surrogate participates with the client in structured and unstructured experiences that are designed to build client self-awareness and skills in the areas of physical and emotional intimacy. These therapeutic experiences include partner work in relaxation, effective communication, sensual and sexual touching, and social skills training.” I am not a sex surrogate and do not offer these services.
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2. What are some of the potential outcomes of somatic sex education?

  • More ease and sensation throughout your body
  • Increased awareness about your erotic intelligence and what turns you on inside the “bedroom” and in other areas of your life
  • Clarity around boundaries, desires, and how to ask for what you want – sexually and otherwise
  • Increased satisfaction in your sex life and relationships
  • New or increased access to ecstatic and erotic states
  • Tools to use for your own erotic exploration or with a partner
  • Better/more orgasms
  • Greater joy and more pleasure
  • Healing of past wounds around sex and body trauma
  • Increased capacity for intimacy and connection
  • Transformation in your relationships and life

The benefits of Somatic Sex Education are often apparent after one session. You may have a deep experience of feeling your body in a very new way, very quickly. This can feel refreshing, expansive and also alarming as you get used to a new sense of erotic and full embodiment. A foundational piece of this work is giving you the tools you need to access your own erotic intelligence and pleasure. You may start to experience more sensation and pleasure in your body and in your sexual practices and relationships. You may also start to notice access to more of your desire and more ability to ask for what you want – in sex and other areas of your life.

You may start experiencing clarity about what you truly want and developing the skills to ask for what you want while remaining completely unapologetic about it. You may experience a reduction or elimination of shame and fear. You may also start to experience more direct, honest and rewarding communication in your relationships. You may begin to experience arousal states that are free of fantasy, unfinished emotional business, religious dogma, cultural caveats and habitual sexual behaviors. In this state, an individual becomes aware of the body as a source of wisdom and of guidance. You may also start to experience a deeper love and acceptance for your body, your sexuality and erotic nature like you’ve never felt before. Through this work, you may experience a deeper sense of spirituality in your life and deeper connections to all life/nature/source/the divine/God.
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3. Who sees a somatic sex educator?

People see Somatic Sex Educators for many reasons. In these sessions, people can learn and explore erotic embodiment and sexual expression in a safe, sacred, and supported space. These sessions offer clients a place to deepen into pleasure, connect spirituality with sexuality, and explore their erotic intelligence. This work can also help people reclaim or redefine their sexuality, after injury or illness, trauma, life transitions or relationship changes.
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4. What does a somatic sex education session consist of?

It can include the following:

  • breathing
  • conscious, consensual touch
  • movement
  • self-pleasure witnessing and coaching
  • partner engagement witnessing and coaching
  • pelvic floor release work
  • scar tissue remediation
  • intimacy exercises

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5. What can I expect in my session?

You will be met with respect, unconditional presence, acceptance, loving kindness, and professionalism in a safe and sacred space. This will enable you to bring yourself as fully as you’d like and to engage with this work to best meet your needs.

Every session includes attention on the breath and the body and intention-setting for our time together. It may also include deep witnessing and loving support as you explore your body, your pleasure, and your relationships. If appropriate to your needs and desires, we may use table work to help you discover more about your body. You can expect complete focus, presence and attention during your session.

You can also expect clear boundaries you can relax into and feel held by. You will set the pace for the work. We will never do anything that you are uncomfortable with. This work is not about pushing you past your boundaries and edges. You can always say no to something, even if you previously said yes. This, in of itself, teaches you erotic autonomy and empowerment. We will be in verbal communication every step of the session, and you are always in complete choice about what happens.
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6. What does a typical first session look like?

Somatic sex education can bring transformation, healing and more awareness, but it’s not right for everyone. Before we schedule a full session, we will meet for a 30 minute phone call to determine if this work is right for you. Once we schedule a full session, I’ll send you an intake form to complete before our next meeting. If I’m not the right practitioner for you or if another approach would be more useful for you, I’ll offer suggestions for alternatives. My desire is to help you get the support and learning you want, whether it’s with me or not.

The first session is our opportunity to get to know each other and to start building the container that we’ll work in. We’ll complete your intake and explore exercises around consent, communication, and boundaries to help us create our working relationship.
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7. Do I have to do anything I don’t want to do?

NO. Not ever.

This work is not effective if you are pushing through something or pushing yourself to do something any part of you doesn’t want to do. We’ll discover the pace that works best for you to learn and explore what you want and to also integrate it as you go along.
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8. What these sessions are NOT

This work never includes sex or sexual interactions between client and practitioner.
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9. Can I bring my partner to my sessions?

Yes. We will discuss this in advance so we are clear about the intentions of your couples session. The couples rate applies.
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10. What does a couples session look like?

I enjoy working with couples of any gender combination or relationship structure to help them explore and create the skills they need to bring more enjoyment, ease and pleasure into their relationship. Couples sessions usually focus on the sexual aspects of your relationship. This is not couples therapy, but I can work together with you and your therapist to support your partnership on multiple levels if that is desired.
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11. What kinds of clients do you work with?

I work with people of all genders, sexual orientations, and relationship structures. I believe that everyone deserves pleasure and sexual well-being, and I invite you to discover your fullest erotic potential and embodiment. I welcome you to my practice, with whatever identifies you hold – human being, person, spirit, god, goddess, woman, man, female, male, feminine, masculine, androgyne, lesbian, gay, bisexual, bi-curious, hetero-flexible, heterosexual, pansexual, transgender, intersex, questioning, kink, BDSM, monogamous, non-monogamous, open, polyamorous, etc.
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12. Some words about gender and anatomy

A large portion of my clientele identify as women or men and I often use these terms in my language for simplicity. I want to acknowledge that there are people who prefer different terminology than that which they were given at birth or even outside of this binary. The "Gender Bread Person" is a wonderful resource for learning more about this topic and other terminology. I also want to acknowledge that genitals do not equal gender so I attempt to specify when I'm referring to both a particular gender with particular genitals (e.g., women with vulvas). My desire is to be inclusive and inviting of all beings.
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13. Is my information kept confidential?

Absolutely. Anything you discuss with me in somatic sex education or coaching sessions will be completely confidential. Additionally, I adhere to professional standards of confidentiality.
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14. Do you offer phone or Skype sessions?

This work is more effective in person. However, I offer Skype or phone sessions to regular clients when in-person appointments cannot be made due to extended out of town travel or other reasons. All Skype or phone sessions must be paid for at least 24 hours in advance.
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15. What is your cancellation policy?

I have a strict 24 hour cancellation policy. Should you need to cancel your appointment, kindly give me 24 hours minimum notice via phone message or text message. If you cancel your session with less than 24 hours notice, you are responsible for the cost of your session.
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16. Legal Stuff

By contacting me for an appointment, you agree to and understand the terms above. Disclaimer: Somatic Sex Education/Coaching and Sexological Bodywork is not psychotherapy or medical treatment. We do not dispense psychological or medical diagnosis, advice, or services. The services discussed herein do not in any way include or relate to either (1) engagement in any lewd act for money or other consideration, or (2) solicitation, offer, or agreement to engage in any lewd act for money or other consideration.
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