“The time will come
when, with elation
you will greet yourself arriving at your own door, in your own mirror
and each will smile at the other's welcome,

and say, sit here. Eat.
You will love again the stranger who was your self.
Give wine. Give bread. Give back your heart
to itself, to the stranger who has loved you

all your life, whom you ignored for another, who knows you by heart.
Take down the love letters from the bookshelf,

the photographs, the desperate notes,
peel your own image from the mirror.
Sit. Feast on your life.”

Derek Walcot

What Is Somatic Sex Education? 

Somatic sex education is a form of embodied education and training that assists individuals, couples and groups in deepening their experience of embodiment (being in the body).  Somatic (or soma) means relating to the body.  When education happens in the body, for example, by playing tennis, rather than watching it on TV or reading about it, learning happens a lot faster and often more deeply.  Humans learn more quickly when education happens experientially and while being embodied.

This work assists you in learning about your erotic intelligence while being embodied.

Why Do This Work?

In our fast-paced, “doing-based” culture, most of us are not taught, let alone encouraged, to feel and be in our bodies, nor to express, notice and savor experiences we have while being in our bodies.  Being embodied means that we have full access to a broad range of emotions and sensations and the ability to savor life.  Embodiment not only makes for a great sex life, but a great life in general!

If we are not fully embodied, we don’t know what we like and don’t like, let alone how to get it. Working with erotic embodiment is a potent, and often fast-track, way to deeply learn about yourself, your patterns and relationships, and to becoming fully the person/lover/partner you want to be.

Some Reasons You Might Consider This Work:

  • Dissatisfaction with sex and/or relationships
  • Difficulties with orgasm or premature ejaculation
  • A desire for a more complete sex education (most of us do not get a very good one!)
  • Pain or discomfort with sex and/or in the pelvic area
  • A desire to enhance your sex life and relationship(s)
  • Curiosity about your own erotic map or that of a lover
  • Learning to give and receive pleasure
  • Recovering sexual functioning and pleasure after childbirth; genital, pelvic or breast surgery; trauma
  • Accepting and loving one’s body, gender and sexuality
  • Understanding anal pleasure
  • Cultivating erotic embodiment and expression
  • Referred by a therapist, doctor, massage therapist, or friend